I wanted her to be jealous and sad in the hopes that it would make her want to work on us.
How's that making deposits in W's love bank with this type of negative intention?
It was an attempt to spur her into action.
Action toward what? What were your expectations? Remember about expectations?! With her saying she does not know one way or another about fixing us and asking me what would be different I feel like I need to show her the differences.
That's ok if W isn't clear on this. Sometimes we're not always clear on certain things at the present moment. Perhaps at some point, W will get some better idea. For now, there's no answers from her. You need to be okay with this. Otherwise you're getting antsy pantsy over this. How's that working out for you so far? Not good, right?
With her saying she does not know one way or another about fixing us and asking me what would be different I feel like I need to show her the differences.
Instead of being mad at her for "waking" you up to the reality of the M's shabby condition, you'll need to learn to be grateful for this gift from W and start working on YOU. Change your perspective and you'll appreciate this.
Going dim is good for the BOTH of you. It gives you some protection and it gives W space from you so she'll think of you and miss you. That is good.
I'd let W be with her studies. Get out of her way.
