Yes, like the fact that no matter what OM says or does he will be right and no matter what you say or do you will be wrong. I say don't expose, it never works out well. And do you really think she doesn't know? Cheaters are never as smart as they think they are.
Exposing my now X's affair brought me nothing but grief. The OW in my situation still blames me for her divorce! And OW's retaliations have been very hurtful to me. You have no idea how much crazy you might be messing with.
Right now you are hurting and wanting to save your marriage. Tread carefully and keep reading threads. The answers are all here!
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