Dealing with an addicted partner is hard. I had a long term GF that was alcoholic and was so good at hiding her drinking and just so amazingly good at deception and lies.
Boundaries should be firm and not bent. They don't have to be permanent but as long as they are in place they need to be steadfast.
Keep strong and diligent.
He's stopped the substances and is now chasing anything else that gives him a temporary high, ie sex! It's sad really, he's a good man underneath but that man is too weak to overcome the addict in him. I've stood by and supported him for many years, it's time to let him fall & deal with the consequences of his choices.
My boundary is that I won't be part of his life whilst he has OW there, I'm NC at the moment because I need some space then in a few weeks I'm happy to do handover of the kids & important stuff via email but nothing more than that and I'm going to be clear that I am not his friend.
It's going to be difficult but I'm determine to look after me now (& the kids of course!) and he can go to hell for the time being!!
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
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