One year in but a newbie

[Lifes Twists]

So today I took youngest daughter fishing at her request. We had a good time for her first time. Planning on going again next weekend.

I will be helping my middle daughter with her trig homework at her request. My wife tried to talk me out of helping her with her homework because wife is mad at me.

Apparently when I went to the apartment yesterday after my youngest and I went to pick up fishing supplies, we arrived when OM was picking wife up. Apparently this made him feel uncomfortable and ruined their date and I am to blame for that. I told wife that if daughter has said we should stay away for now I would have. Instead daughter said wife was out doing errands. She felt that it was weird me waiting till thy left to go in with daughter to set up poles for today. I told her that she needs to communicate so this does not happen as I have no interest in meeting her OM.Then she laid into me because my daughter and later I had the nerve to call her multiple time s to try and reach her to get daughters medical card since she may have broken her toe and called me because she could not reach her mother. Apparently I was trying to make her look like a bad mother because I wanted to take care of my daughter and did not have access to her medical card. I told her that if she wasn't going to leave them in the apartment where they could be accessed then I wanted copies for myself as I did not enjoy what happened. Of course it was all still my fault.

How do you deal with this craziness?