Let's get some opinions on what going dim means. I take it as not initiating contact or text messages. When she sends a message I respond with minimal info and don't ask anything about her or what she is doing.

This morning we were coordinating the kid swap and she was headed to work on her doctoral papers. I wanted to show support for her and how difficult it is to do that stuff and how she should be proud of how hard she is working, but I didn't because I am going dim.

Is this dark instead of dim? Can I show emotional support while still being dim? Opinions?


M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15