Sorry Upwards. Best advice I can give you is HOLD YOUR BOUNDARY. If you bend, you will start cycling and that is no way to live (and I say that from experience).
H is going to have to feel like he's really lost you before he's even going to be able to consciously make a choice regarding his future. The bad news is, for him to feel like that, you really have to set him free...and ultimately, set yourself free. That's hard stuff.
Originally Posted By: Upwards
Wow I feel anxious & really sad today think it's because I know what I have to do, walk away & not look back, for the time being anyway! I know it's what's best for me & the kids, why is it so difficult & feel so wrong though.
I think you have to put that "best for me and the kids" hat on and keep it on. You should be making decisions for YOU. What is best for you? What is going to make you happy? How do you protect your heart? Sometimes the answers are difficult, but if you know they are right for you, follow through with them.
Hang in there...this is just a dip in the roller coaster ride. There will be better days.
think it's because I know what I have to do, walk away & not look back, for the time being anyway! I know it's what's best for me & the kids, why is it so difficult & feel so wrong though. 