I'm new and just now reading Divorce Busters. What is the standard Michelle-W-D stance on exposing an A to the OM's (or OW's) spouse? Is that a no, no here? I can definitely see that blanket exposure to everybody (family, friends, work) can create problems. However, an A clearly needs secrecy to survive in most cases. I can't help but think that exposing the A to the spouse will help end it. I realize that every sitch is different but please school me on the DB general strategy in this specific area.
