Barrybran

[Barrybran]

Well, I went for that walk. The kids weren't home so I went by myself. I enjoyed it. It gave me some good thinking time. I thought some more about the living arrangements and I thought about the traits you guys have been helping me with. It stuck out that I want to be honourable and moving out would be the honourable thing to do. I would need to have an agreement in place regarding the kids as well as making sure there are no legal ramifications in me moving out before I agreed to do so. If all of those things fall into place, I feel I could move out and be happy with the decision.

I don't want to move of course. I enjoy it here, it's a great house and I've put a lot of time and effort into maintaining it. I feel that who I am is more important than a house and I would feel comfortable moving on if it fit in with who I want to be. Realistically, my kids would spend more time here too so having the yard would be a bonus for them.

I believe I should speak with a few people before making any decision: the police, so I know where I stand if my wife does something crazy; a lawyer, so I understand my rights, particularly with the two elder kids, and to confirm that moving out will not negatively impact me if things go further south; and the real estate, so I can see what is in the area. I won't be going anywhere if I feel that what is available is not suitable to my needs and wants.

My wife ruled out sharing a second place too. I understand that.