Crimson....waiting for goodness to happen.

[25yearsmlc]

Crimson,

I have more to say, but I really like this posting to you from Claire...think about it a bit more, okay?

More later, (of course!)

((( )))

You know-- I understand this feeling. It hurts your pride, maybe, that this was not your choice and that no matter how great you are, she doesn't want you. That is one way to look at it.

But there is another way to look at it. Maybe she is not all that great. Maybe you deserve someone better. You'll never get the satisfaction or "triumph" over her. But-- you might just end up with a really awesome happy life, a partner who deserves you, etc... if you can take a breath and let her go. Say good riddance. It may be the hardest and best thing you'll ever do.

While I still retain hope for your wife to awaken, that is based on 3 things.

1) I really think highly of you, and cannot believe another woman like your wife is blind to that.

2) I don't think she's blind to it AND she knows your son loves you and that pulls at ALL women to some extent...and

3) your wife DID want to reconcile. A part of her still loves you...


Others should add/detract to what I'm about to say b/c I am NOT sure I'm on target but this is how I have seen your situation for a few days now...I want your ex w to have SOME insights...and I cannot control that at all. But I wonder if your words matter to her...b/c if they do...then-

I want you to somehow communicate some of what you have said but it would have to be so brief that it's powerful.

First, maybe your L can remind your xw's L that the pending payments will be dropping but make sure your lawyer tells her L about the "above/beyond" that you've done and did not have to...

As for what YOU might say to her about who you were and now are, maybe a comment or two about knowing your changes are real and

while you're sorry she can't/won't concede that AND OR consider making adjustments at her end,

you now have to move on like she is, and there MAY be a decrease in some contacts but you'd ask for HER understanding-- that despite what she keeps telling herself, (i.e. her rationalizations and the "Supportive" commentary from her uber wonderful loving father about what a scoundrel you are),

you really are hurting and you realize NOTHING you do or say will change how she sees you, so you need to decrease the contacts, while you also keep thanking her for being a good mom to your son...

See...here's the thing Crimson.
You really have done your best, persistently.
It is becoming clear now, that the remaining obstacle(s) to reconciling, apparently are all on your ex wife's end.

That means you can go forth now, hold your head up, knowing that you gave it your all...and be at peace. Leave it in God's hands now...

HE knows you, and he knows all your hideous flaws and faults and...

HE loves you anyhow. US TOO!!