Hey, good to hear from you. That's exactly how I got through my W's first depression (started 7 years ago, ended after 3.5 years if it ever really did end). Would I let her antics get to me if she were suffering from cancer and chose this way to deal with it? NO! Same thing I'm trying to do now. Harder though as this feels so personal. Like we spouses just aren't worthy or worse we're so bad we caused their pain.
Keep the faith. We all will get through this one way or another.
