i do get what you are saying Mr Bond I can see how it looks as if I am trying to control things, but the schedule was already in place and I just felt that it was unfair on me and the boys that she saw so little of them. I asked her if she was happy to look at it and she agreed. When we went out together on Easter Monday the following happened which frustrated me( I know I allowed myself to be frustrated). I took the boys into the maze for a treasure hunt which they absolutely loved and we spent nearly an hour doing it, meanwhile she lay in the sun and declined the chance to join us. Then I took them to crazy golf for over an hour, she did the same thing,lay in the sun. I just found it strange that she would choose to miss out on those activities considering it was supposed to be about spending time as much as possible doing fun things with our boys. I have raised this with her and for the first time she seemed to really accept what I was saying and has said it was wrong for her to do it. I don't want to control her, I have no clue what she does when she isn't in my company, but I think it's sad that she is missing out on some lovely times with the boys and I worry that she doesn't realise it and it might be too late when she does.The boys are already seeming to come to terms with her rarely being there and thats sad considering how devoted she once was. The bottom line is though that I know it is her choice and her loss, . She also revealed to me tonight that she desperately wants to go on our holiday to my sisters abroad. I thought she had accepted it couldn't happen but it appears not, she is trying to find a way that makes it possible but doesn't want the pressure cooker that might happen if we spend to much time together. I don't think it would be possible, I would find it very difficult.
