"We do already have a schedule but it needs some adjusting as it is very heavily weighted towards them being almost always with me ( her choice) and I feel that it needs to be adjusted to ensure they spend more time with her."
Why do you keep trying to control this? If she doesn't want to be with them, then you can't force it.
You're still trying to control things.
"She can't expect me to be engaging happily with her when I feel so sad at the end of our marriage."
She has a right to "expect". You just don't have to fill those expectations. Stop trying to control how she feels.
"As much as I know I should be acting as if everything is ok she makes it very difficult as she seems to be seeking attention but giving absolutely nothing in return."
Mindreading on your part. To me it seems like she's trying to stay friends with you for the sake of the kids. If you can't handle it, then move on, but don't try to control her actions.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
