Barrybran

[Barrybran]

I am very literal and I know it is a problem. It's probably why LFW suggested Asperger's. I feel I know when I do and don't understand things as well as when I'm not sure and I want to be sure about the things that I understand. The way I see it, if I understand things, I can make more appropriate decisions, act more thoughtfully and so on and so forth. If I don't understand things I risk more problems, most notably, through miscommunication.

I don't understand your point about the cleaning though. My wife has told me that she feels that she isn't contributing to the house because I take on all the jobs. I take that information on board and make my own decision. I get that. If I clean anyway, I'm not listening to my wife. I understand that I'm not detached. Surely I don't just do what I want to though. I thought the point was to be my own person while considering other's feelings. Am I still missing something here?

On a side note, it looks like I'll have to make an appointment with a lawyer on Monday :-( I think if I can find a way to move out and still have the kids half the time without any negative legal repercussions, that'll be the way to go. I get that I have to stay for now because my wife is the one choosing to separate. Detached or not, I do feel she has a point and staying is only going to make things worse.