You are very literal. The cleaning was simply an example and your answer was that of a person who is clearly not detatched at all.
The leaving the house thing...
Your W is correct in that you made the mistake. However she is the one wanting the separation not you.
And until you consult with a L in regards to your legal rights if this were to go towards divorce, you need to be very careful. In America, abandonment of the marital property (ie, moving out) is a very big deal.
Yes, you W needs to be able to forgive you, and I don't know if she can, but you also need to be able to forgive yourself. That may actually be more important in the long run.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
