Barrybran

[Barrybran]

She followed up with this:

"It's as if I'm the one being punished for your indiscretions.
I didn't do anything wrong.
I didn't betray you. I didn't break your trust. I didn't talk to you like you were beneath me..... and yet I'm the one being given the only option to move out. Haven't I suffered enough of your [censored]?"

I get that we're all here because we've not been good to our spouses. I've really messed up, albeit the biggest incidents occurring a year ago, and I feel that my wife is right. My refusal to leave, as just as it is (where do I go? why not stay and work on things?), is pushing my wife further away. Honestly, I don't feel she should have to move out because I cheated on her. I feel that working on our relationship (not now) is more constructive than me moving out and this is my home.

I feel like I'm missing something here. Surely it's not all "stand your ground and make your spouse do the heavy lifting." Is it? I mean, I stuffed up, not her. I'd really like some understanding right now because I do genuinely feel that she is right as to why she can't live with me right now, even if I disagree as to her proposed course of action.