rutroe - MLC is not fun post #3

[cat04]

Scooby,

I agree with Job. Keep the kids busy this weekend. So they don't have time to go play with OW's relative.

Also, yes, generally when they appear nice it is because they want something.

To answer your questions to me, I am not sure why I was asked to look at your sitch. We can see similarities in all of our sitches because while every MLC is unique, there are also hallmarks common to them as well.

With some of us oldtimers, when someone asks, that is all we need to know. I haven't read your whole sitch yet but I will try to get to it.

I do see that you say he is walking all over your boundaries...

I scuk at boundaries. Because I too make them unenforcable. Or I make too many of them, or I make them and hope they will be followed because I really don't want to enforce them. So when they are broken, I don't do anything because I didn't want to to begin with.

He can only break your boundary if you allow him to. Just like your kids can only break the rules if you allow them to.

Also, look for a book by Jim Conway. I don't remember the name of it and it's pretty old and hard to find, but it is about MLC.

There really isn't much out there because it isn't considered a true psychiatric diagnosis.

Job also pointed you to a good thread. Spend some time in the archives, it is a plethera of wisdom and laughter.

And my name, well it totally fits my personality.