Barrybran

[Barrybran]

Thanks LFW. I haven't considered seeing a lawyer yet. So far, I'm standing firm on staying and leaving the decision to leave to my wife. I've set up my room today so I'll hibernate there as much as possible and I've just refreshed myself with Sandi's rules. The kids are back tomorrow night so that will be the first big test of how workable this arrangement is. My wife's brother and his fiance are staying with us for a week from Monday and that will be another big test. My wife has told them that we're separated though I'm not sure if she's told them why. Fun times ahead anyway.

As for the older two kids, my wife says she'll continue to treat me as their father. They call me Dad, I'm the only Dad S6 has ever known and I've been more of a Dad to D4 in a few months than her real Dad has been her whole life. We're arranging another round of mediation and my wife plans to include me and not tell D4's bio Dad about our separation 1) because she hasn't figured out what she wants between us and 2) because my wife feels that it has nothing to do with D4's bio Dad because of his attitude towards fatherhood while I'm down in the trenches every day.

I haven't forgotten about Mach's questions. I've put them on hold while I sort through these couple of issues so I don't start new threads within a thread. I'll come back to them when things settle down a bit.