Yes, it is as weird as it looks. Where is your self-respect? Seriously, man. Stop this. Massaging her shoulder? Are you kidding me? How is that detaching? She is walking across you as if your name is "doormat" and you allow it. Go to dinner with her and your son. Then go to your own space. Stop giving her everything when she is schtuping another man! You have control. Act like it.
Me:35 Him:37 Together 8+ yrs Married:7+ years 2 DS's 5 and 2 BD 2/24/14 H living in parents guest house