Working on myself

[Mic]

Hi everyone
I Need some advice. How many of you have went through a custody trial? I believe that is where we are headed. After our mediation he went very irrational. Texted he would be going for full custody ( his concept of full custody is I would not see my kids). Yes I know that's not true. Said I couldn't take the kids to church on his day. Commented on the "welfare" check he gives me every month etc. lots of other things. I filed for temporary sole custody. We can't agree on anything and he appears to be irrational on all subjects. Don't want to go into a lot of detail.

He has started putting the kids in the middle and every day I find out more stuff he has told our 7 year old. She should not be I. The middle and is already seeing a counselor. The school recommended this. I'm going to continue after school is out. He does not believe the children suffer in a divorce. His words "when they see me in a happy relationship it will make them happy. I need to stop reading the negative aspects of divorce."
Financially he can't seem to produce all of his documents. It appears to me my accountant and attorney there is a ton of money not accounted for unless all of us cannot add. Lol!
He continues to hold up all discovery by not producing documents and what he gives us seems suspect. We just had to subpoena one of his main clients to see what he has really been paid. Any good ways to find hidden assets.
He never allowed me on the accounts or houses. I know it does not matter in a divorce but difficult since he is not opening marital funds for attorney's fees and I believe trying to "starve" me out.
Any more suggestions on finding hidden assets.
On our farm I am having to place the majority of the animals. Keep in mind these are rescues. He has now told the volunteers he can get them new horses. Errr we are in the middle of a divorce and I thought you were broke.
Also he now has cameras out there so he can always watch what is going on and told my daughter he watches on the phone and it will even track him but he says it's ok I'm a friend. Paranoid. He is ex military. Could he be having flashbacks. He was pretty high up and did a lot of secret stuff from what I understand.
So many more completely off the wall characteristics.
I have never been close to anyone going through a divorce. Is some of this off the wall.
Can he be in the throes of deep MLC?. I truly do not know this person.
I am honestly becoming scared. When they are in the fog do they even know what they are doing.
Another example I always took the kids to church. I begged him to come. He went 3x in 8 years. Last week he told our daughter I took his church from him and he took all 3 kids to a different church. Sorry to judge but I don't know how he can go to church with what he's doing in all aspects of his life right now.
We were looking at a 3rd home beach house last July and now we can't even look at each other.
This is not how I imagined our miracle sons first year of life would be.
I feel as if I'm being attacked on all fronts by him.
I can't imagine that I had 3 children with this man. I have no idea how I'm supposed to ever co parent with this person. Can't he please go away to planet MLC.
Another crazy thing he asked for the divorce. I did not want it at first but now I just want to be done and get what should fairly be mine andEVERY proposal of his is ludicrous. Why can't he just settle and go away.
Lots of rambling from me tonight.
Would love any insight and direction anyone may have.