I don't think I'm trying to use it against him but yes I think he should have to deal (for lack of better term) with it first hand. I think he needs to face some reality and see how this is affecting people...he dropped the bomb and took off and didn't have to deal with any aftermath. Very cowardly and selfish. I don't think I've really thought of what I expect his reaction to be and know I have no control over it.

My problem with telling the kids is I'm not sure what to do. I've went back and forth many times. Bottom line, right now if they don't need to know than I would like us to do it together, face to face because I think that is the best way to do it for them. To know that no matter what we will both be there for them.


Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since