afraid I have waited too long #3

[nit84]

It seems as though my W has gone into a shell somewhat.

Mutual friends have tried to engage her with communications but she does not answer calls or texts from them.

As far as I know they are just trying to keep up a friendship with her like they are with me. They are not contacting her to try to fix this.

When they tell me these things I just say maybe she feels that we can't all be friends I guess.

Then on the computer I find searches about loneliness and related topics so I start to feel sorry for her even though I know that she has chosen it to be this way and could very easily turn it around if she was inclined to do so.

I don't expect for W to tell me these friends contacted her but must know that I know because I hang out with these friends once or twice a week.

She says it hurt her feelings the other day when My Nephew called for me and didn't talk to W at all but texted her a minute later and said sorry to bother I was looking for my Uncle and I got him Thanks.

She can make contact with all these people and they tell me they wont judge her if she does. When they contact her while looking for me and she get upset they don't warmly talk to her it is her own fault if she chooses not contact them and they react in the same way.

If she ever reached out to my family they would still treat her like family if she was in need or trouble because that is the way we are but if W feels that they should make the first move then it will be getting even more lonely then it is now. Again, this all her choosing so it is what it is. All I can do is validate her feelings. I cant and wont ask anybody to talk to her because she is feeling down.

How do I keep from feeling sorry for her when things like this come about. I would love to shut it all out but I am not that type of man. If I were this M would have ended the day she asked for a S.