[ces67]

Hey SF, good to see some updates. I'm not on the boards much but have looked for yours.

Haven't read the full thread but we seem to be in very similar situations. Roommates, not work on the marriage. W not wanting to D but not willing to work on the M. Puts on a happy and engaging face with others and blow me off... you get the picture all too well.

Good for you on the 180. I have a bad habit of rescuing as well and know how hard it is to see someone you love fall. (even if it's their own fault). You can do that and still be kind and compassionate towards their struggle so good for you.

Its a long road to live in an environment where there you are not shown the expected love and compassion we think an M should have. I like the way you responded to your son (and it had to feel good to know he sees it as well and sympathized with you).

I'm sure this is somewhere back in your threads but I'll ask anyway. Why are you staying? Just a curiosity on my part.

I moved over to the "ready to leave" thread and am working through what that looks like for me, but I won't hijack your thread to get into that. Hope you have a good weekend.