[SemperFi00]

Soldier thanks for checking in and commenting on my story. Don’t worry at all about being a vet or not – all comments and thoughts are appreciated….. Will check in on your story a little later. Good for you that you have already identified some of the things that may have been problems and I am always looking for good reading materials.

In my circumstance, as best as I can tell at this point W believes that we just sort of grew apart and got overly focused on the kids and paid little attention to us. Now doesn’t believe feelings can change and is not willing to do anything to try and get those feelings to change. I partially agree with that – oldest is almost 18 now and we didn’t go away ourselves for the first time until he was around 13.

At that point, went away with another couple for a few days to a resort and had a good time. After that we started to do a few things here and there w/o kids for a couple years (dinners, bands, parties etc…). Had lots of friends, active intimate life, many of our couple friends have told us that they wanted to have what we had, etc…..

About 2.5 or 3 years ago W dropped the B and seems to have been following the script and re-writing history along the way. Many of the standard WAS comments like ILYBINILWY, if I ever did love you it changed somewhere along the way, I am not sure I ever loved you, not willing to work on things any longer, etc….. My initial reaction after B-date included all of the wrong activities (for a longer period of time that I care to admit) and ever since I have been working on integrating the DB principles.

No abuse, alcohol, drugs, affairs (that I am aware of), violence, etc… Just lots of regret and sadness about the current situation…….. W feels like she has finally “found her voice” and can say how she has been feeling for a long time (not sure if this is script or not).

Wow, this got a little long and not sure why I felt the need to type all that out. But like I said, will check in on your story a little later…