Thanks for the responses everyone. Sometimes you just feel like you are wavering in the direction you chose to go.
Zew:Thanks for the support. It's such a tough place to maintain boundaries when you are financially dependent on each other (I'm talking about the lawyer not recommending any financial lifestyle changes). It's hard to resist enforcing changes, but I realize that would be controlling and against L advice.
Not sure if anything is mastered yet, as always it's a work in progress. And you are so right, mind reading does me no good. I really need to stop doing that.
Starksky: Nice to see you think I'm on the right track right now. Thanks, and that spew jacket comes in handy more than you know.
Tarheel: Couldnt agree with you more. Ironically, I was reading your stitch, and debated about adopting a colder stance towards my W. So hard to know what to do, because half the time detachment feels opposite of what we should do. I think your doing great with the set up and plan your following. As long as you don't go back on any boundaries, your probably ok. That's what would worry me though
My stitch has got to the point where that miscommunication set off a huge cascade and prevented any civil communication. That's why I stepped in and suggested we meet. Make sure your goals are tied to you and not seeking to restore friendship with your W
Happy DBing everyone. Beautiful day in the part of the world I am
