Upwards - Moving Fowards, Tiny Positive Steps

[JennD]

Hi Upwards. I've got the 2 kids - 3 and 6 years old - and that was my strugggle too - finding ways to GAL with them or when they were in bed. Pretty tough to do.

Not that I've got it down 100%, but in the evening while they are sleeping, I:
- watch alot of netflix movies,
- clear out cupboards,
- take baths (bought really nice bubble bath),
- started doing craft again (mostly prep for fun kiddie crafts I can do with the girls on the weekends)
- go to bed early (or fall asleep on the couch!)

If I were you, I would discuss with H about adding a bit more time to his care of the kids so you can get out and have enough time to do something (massage, movies, shopping, etc).

I'm just starting to make the most of my own time (which I haven't had in a looonnnggg time) and find it really helps to keep PMA.

I too really resisted not being with the kids for the first while as I felt like they were the only think that kept me going. But I realize that I would be a better person for getting out and doing something for me and set a good example for them too.

A big part of why I am where I am with my H I believe is because we lost sight of our own induvidual needs and of our needs as a couple - only focused on being parents and homeowners...

I'm rooting for you!