Heh man. Read your last few posts. Hang in there. U seem to be a top guy and doing all the right things. She seems to be fighting thoughts of going back but if your changes are real I think you're in with a great chance. I hope you get her back but if not you really have got a great future with the 180 you've implemented!!!
Thanks! I really appreciate your comment. W and I get along so well, but I'm really fighting to not get my hopes up. I really privately worry about the "friend zone" thing. I know my W envisioned a D in which we stay friends and split time with the kids 50/50, which is why I think she gets distressed when I mentioned (when she asked me) that my plan is probably to move relatively far away if we split (a couple of hours). I figure all I can do in whatever time we are still in the same house together is become a better version of me and, in the process, let her see what she'll be missing.
Incidentally, I've been following your sitch a little bit and I think you handled staying over at your W's/the spider thing quite well. I think the best you can do is find a balance between being available, but not *too* available.
Wishing the best for us all...
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
