^^^^ this!! Having my H put our D to bed 3x a week (as opposed to nearly zero times he used to!) has been huge for me. I don't feeling like I'm always racing to get home-- I have time for IC, manicures, errands, meeting a friend for a drink after work. Even though I am getting less sleep, I feel less exhausted by child care. (And, coincidentally, my H told me he feels exhausted, never has time for anything, and is frequently frustrated by the bedtime routine. Mmm hmmm.)
