So what I am trying to develop is a strategy to not backslide, not support her affair, but also to not loose what emotional,ties we still have.
A great place to start is with Sandi's rules. Follow these and you will be well on your way. Someone has done the work of developing a great plan for you, you just need to implement it.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
