I think the meeting was fine. As you describe it, it was about logistics and validation. No harm there. (I only wish I had the opportunity to validate.)
Scheduling regular meetings, keeping communication open -- no harm there.
About her jumping on the phone, and you afraid of it turning into friendship... Ya, I see your concern, but we have no idea what that is, so let's not mind read or make anything of it. We don't even know if she's going to make a habit of it. So keep the calls short and on point. You had previously set your boundary of "no playing family" and I don't see that any of this violates that, so I think you're fine.
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Did I screw up by meeting with her?
I don't see any harm in communications if you stick to the rules, keep the topic on parenting and hold your boundaries.
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My IC is telling me it's over, but I'm not phased by that at this time. If I listened to everyone else I would be in the throws of a full blown D at this time . She is encouraging me to work on myself which is good.
