Barrybran

[Barrybran]

I've been doing a fair bit of thinking about living arrangements the past couple of days. I feel good that I stood up for myself last night by saying that I won't be moving out. It's my home and I feel I shouldn't have to wear the costs of my wife's decisions. With everything that has gone on I feel that separate addresses are the way to go. I'm struggling to leave my wife alone and even if I can do so successfully, as my wife said, I'm "always here" in the house and I don't want to leave the house just because she can't stand the sight of me at the moment. There is nothing to do in town and we're approaching winter so I want to spend my evenings at home in comfort, not outside the house.

I tried researching ideas for space for in-house separations and the house I'm in is difficult to make it work. We have to pass one another to do what we need to do around the house and there's no true escape. I could go to the shed as my wife suggested. There's nothing down there though. I could hook up a TV and DVD player. I could do that in the spare bedroom too.

I've also given more thought today to the idea of renting a second place with my wife for my wife and I to switch between instead of moving the kids around. There are some huge cons to this for me. It will help to create some distance between my wife and I though and that appears to be very important to her at the moment.

I'm kind of stumped about what to do about this at the moment. All I seem to do is further alienate my wife and I just want to make things more comfortable for the both of us.

Does anyone have any ideas how I can create space within the home?