She moved home but still in love with OM!

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[quote=MrBond]"Emotional abuse comes in many forms:"

I accepted that our M was over, took a new job and moved more than 100 miles away, not telling him where. And he did try to find out.

I can't leave because of my son and job. She moved back in after having run away. It's very hard when she's the one following me around the house.

In other words, since he didn't want me anymore, I made sure he couldn't have me on any level. This made him think about us and it made him miss me. He lost interest in his ow and split from her 18 months after their wedding. He told me I was so different from her, so he found out on his own the grass was far from greener. He said that he felt such shame and sorrow, and massive guilt for all the pain he caused.
what I have noticed and heard by accident is that she is trying to turn him into me. She is actually the controlling one threatening me to leave me, and him that she will leave him.

I can't stress enough how important it is to just leave them alone with their decision. Getting in their face with a million questions is not at all helpful. It just irritates them and delays, or kills, any chance of recovery.
The one thing I refuse to do is beg her. I did send her a text last night while she was on her cell with OM. She replied that she will always be there for me etc. My text was just me saying goodnight. One comment she made is for me to not be sad. I responded with a kind supportive text but told her I was not sad.
I was determined not to backslide and I didn't.

I felt that I back-slided with the text .

So what I am trying to develop is a strategy to not backslide, not support her affair, but also to not loose what emotional,ties we still have.