I just read this thread, not the previous ones. Sounds like you are trying pretty hard MM. I agree with GM- this is a place to come to be vulnerable. None of us can be with the no. 1 person we are supposed to be vulnerable with right now, so we come to the DB.
Sometimes though it is good for us to hear some bold truth (opinion)the same way our spouses would have dished it out IMO.
May God bless you MM and help you find what you are looking for.
We let their opinions shape us so much. It IS tough to detach and learn to love ourselves again. My W had me convinced I was not a good enough parent or husband. I know better, but the craziness we see and hear can twist us up bad.
BD OM EA 9/2013 ICAYBDNLY 10/2013 I Move out 1/2014 Separation draft sent 5/2014 S13 S13 S9