Argh. I'm sure someone else has also said this, but I was not telling you to be a good dad "for her". OMG I was commending that you are finally just going to BE and not BE for her reaction.

A good dad shares his kid with his kid's mom. That means sending photos and such, is just plain good for the kid. Not good for the kid for the mom. Just good for the kid.

You might be too filled with resentment to do that for now, and that's fine, but it is giving up something nice you can do for your kid, to protect your heart. No shame in that, but you have it in you to get over this. You seemed to be taking a step in that direction by trying to take your focus off your W's reactions and responses. Just do the right thing.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.