new here. is DB even worth it?

[claire7]

Well, it looks like my the lights have been turned on and the music has been cut off on my little pity party! Thanks, 25yearsmlc, I really needed this! You made me laugh at how ridiculous I sounded!

Praising him wasn't wrong; it was good and right. Did you add in the parts about "whereas before"??? That's not needed, just praise him without comparisons to other times...

Whew-- I did one thing right! I didn't add the "whereas before" part. Just the compliment. One point for me!

I THOUGHT he had SAID these ^^ things to you but you are making it up...OMG stop this now. HOW does this attitude help you?

Do you feel "Safer" by predicting failure? I mean, is that the reason you do this? It must serve you in some way, I guess, b/c you sure do it A LOT....but is it really helping you at all, or are you simply used to it? I think you do a lot of flawed analysis.

(Is this what is called a "truth dart"?)

You are asking us questions (perhaps rhetorically) that only YOU have the answers to. We won't judge you if you want to quit. DBing is about becoming the best YOU that you can be...is that a worthy goal for you?

YES! YES! YES!

[/i] Start making your posts about YOU and GAL and the steps you are taking to improve your life and some 180s....what are those?

Get yourself Unstuck. We can't do it for you. But we're all rooting for you.

Thanks.

My 180s:
--Stopping the negativity. That would be HUGE.
--Pulling the trigger/decision-making. Have made some progress on projects around the house.
--Cooking. Have done a bit. Signed up for a class.
--Exercise (I ran quite a bit before I was married/had a baby.) Have had some physical issues since then so don't exercise much besides walking. (Although I am not overweight). But doing some strength training or yoga would feel great.
--Planning trips

Thanks for the honest feedback and tough love.