Life in a mess 2

[Grocerykartman]

Its the fact that she is starting conversations when we had agreed minimal contact.
It was supposed to be mutual and I don't initiate contact, but she does.

This can only make you mad if YOU let it.

You need to stick to a firm schedule. not because it hurts you or bothers you that she contacts you, but because it's bad for your boys to not know who they're going to be with. They need to get used to a schedule and not be surprised. You need to be busy with your boys as much as possible too, with things planned whenever you can. That way you won't be tempted to just give up time with them because you don't see that you have anything better to do.