You know what the irony is, Sandi? I bet if you would ask her right now she would say that I have never acted as if I cared about her happiness at all in this. She has always intimated that I act our of anger or sense of wanting to "get back" at her from the day this all started. She has no idea what I have been doing behind the curtain that is the complete opposite of what she assumes. Her belief is that if I a mad at her or if she does something to upset me - then I am in attack or vengeance mode. She said to C that (loose quote here) "I feel like what he is willing to do/give/compromise depends on how he feels about me at any particular time". I.E. if he is happy with me, I extra vacation days. If he isn't I don't. Never mind that I proactively ask for and volunteer to split expenses with S, never mind that the ENTIRE school year I paid for all of his lunches while she contributed $20 to his account, never mind that she claimed him on her taxes this year and it was NOT her year to do so, never mind that I proactively paid for a large part of his bday party this year when it was NOT my year to have him for his bday. never mind the fact that I am paying child support and alimony based off of an income tied to a bonus structure that I don't get anymore with this new job (I literally have been paying more than I need to and even paid her when I was unemployed for 3 months - never missed a penny) - THEN she believes he dad when he says that I "only wanted to save the M so I wouldn't have to pay alimony and child support". She has NO IDEA what she has received and who I am. I could go on.....but in her eyes there is still something in me that is seething a looking for revenge. Some that asks how her weekend was and gets accused of "prying into her personal life". Really??
