If you figure it out, let me know! My wife and I are constantly at a level 8 stress. I am sitting here thinking I shouldn't let her stress for the situation make me stressful (eg, detach). But then the hope to R pulls me back in like a yo-yo.
Neither one of us will move out until we get a temporary custodial arrangement (court date is set for 5-6). To be honest, my lawyer told me we could go to that hearing and he could say 'since they are living together and both paying housing expenses, there is no reason to have a temporary custody or child support put in place'. So technically, I could stay in the house even longer....
I don't think that is best though. We both need some space. I just can't believe she is fighting me on the 50/50 though. That is the sticker to the situation. Otherwise I would most likely already be out......because there is no way I know of for me to give her space and us be not only with no hope of a R, but even merely living together in some sort of peace.
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
