Think I may have made a mistake. In an effort to try and reduce some of the resentment and anger that is really preventing any communication from occurring regarding the kids, I suggested we meet to clear the air a bit.
We went for dinner, and just spoke about the issues, the recent miscommunication, and the kids schedule, as well as how to communicate directly with each other in the future. I listened and validated with my "starsky spew jacket" when she brought up things from the past. But I did not mention the OM or discuss our R in any way going forward. We left with the next few days schedule layed out.
So here's where I think maybe I have given the wrong impression. I got a text later that night saying "thanks for being so kind and open". I didn't respond, and then this AM I had another text suggesting we meet like that a few times a month to "regroup". I responded a few hours later with "yeah, probably not a bad idea". Two seconds later my W was on the phone, asking how my AM was and asking about my IC appt and how it went. It caught me by surprise.
I don't think though I should read anythjng into it except it is her cake eating wanting to have a friendship with me, which is easier if we are civil. I was brief and didn't say much, but I'm worried I shouldn't have even met with her.
Nothing had changed with respect to her actions in any way. It was just strange
Did I screw up by meeting with her? My IC is telling me it's over, but I'm not phased by that at this time. If I listened to everyone else I would be in the throws of a full blown D at this time . She is encouraging me to work on myself which is good.
Did I backslide?
Anyways, detach, watch, wait and respond appropriately and hopefully correctly
