Thank you Betsey. You know, I never even thought about saying it that way. I don't know why, it is the truth and I think you are right that he will back down in fear of my hope. I will email him and see what he says.
I also realize that I'm way too worried that by saying no he will think I'm vindictive and a bitch. Part of me really cares about what he thinks of me, and the other part is starting to not give a damn.
M45 H46 M16 yrs D17, D10, D7 DB 1-23-2014 H filed D 2-14-2014