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That's a tough one, because personally, I think GAL should be social, at least somewhat. Being with other people changes how you think of yourself, whereas going solo can really drive loneliness, depression, etc.

I have health problems so can't really do anything high energy, by the end of the day comes I'm usually fit for nothing! I do try to see friends regular & socialise when I can but often I'm sat home alone in the evenings so wanted something to occupy me then.

Codependent No More is probably the only book I've read that falls into this category...but I highly recommend.

I've read this fantastic book, I do refer back to it a lot too.

If he still has contact with OW, I would go dim. If not, then I would think about what you can handle without expectation and start there....small steps.

As far as I'm aware the contact with OW has stopped, I do believe this is the case at the moment although of course can't be sure of this. So far I've been doing well at keeping expectations low, I've been working on trying to spot when expectations are developing and to pull back, so far so good - I think I'll just go with his lead & see what happens?