Yes, fig! That crap sends me in a downward spiral soooo fast ... and I really don't WANT to know! Ignorance, at this point in this case, truly is bliss.

I'm reading "Boundaries" by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend. I'm guessing a lot of my relationships will change as a result of this period in my life. And I'll learn to be a bit more stern and straight-forward in expressing my boundaries without fear that I'll hurt others' feelings.

A good start would be to tell ANYONE I know that I don't want to hear about "sightings" or "developments" in H's relationship with OW. I need to assume people will be seeing them together. And they'll want to break their necks telling me about it.

So many people mistake my non-willingness to talk about my feelings as "strength." They think I'm "over" H. So they run to me to tell me anything, completely unaware of what it does to my heart to hear it.

I'm learning so many valuable lessons about the friend I will be to anyone I know who may eventually find themselves in these shoes.

M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014