Lou - if you (or my W) said you are open to listening and will not criticize or control, then perhaps your H would open up a bit. I think you have to just listen, validate, not discuss. He has feelings too, and they need to be said and expressed, without any pushback from you.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
