Does that make sense, though, Bug? Is it selfish? Is it mean? Vindictive? I really DO feel that way. She always talks to S about choices....good choices and bad choices....consequences of choices. This was HER choice. IMHO it was a bad one, but that it just me. She chose not to be a part of the time that S and I spend together -- she wasn't expelled or otherwise asked to leave. She left on her own - it was her choice. Now she can deal with consequences and losing part of her connection and closeness with S is part of that. It is NOT my job to make it easier for her....I have been doing that all along and I quit.
