new here. is DB even worth it?

[JennD]

Hi Claire. Yet again, I am struggling with many of the same ideas and issues as you are.

My IC said for me to stop predicting and guessing and own my truth - that is what is fact - not what I think will happen, what he thinks (even though I know my H better than anyone in the world and know how he thinks). Just know what is true.

And there are things that are difficult that are as a result of his choices.

When I start thinking like you are above (which happens ALOT) I say to myself - what is my truth? What are his choices he has made? Truth and choice.

It does help to slow the predicting and mindreading.

She also had me make a list of what would happen if we were to D - basically face the worst case seniario (sp?) and yes it would $uck none of it would cripple or kill me.

For me, putting it to paper made it less scary and made me realize I can do this.

I backslide all the time. But I know I cannot be a heap of tears forever.

And neither can you. Hope this helps a bit...