Wife in MLC and getting ready to go!

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Hey Matt,
I wanted to post on your sitch since you posted on mine
It's a long journey. Pretty much everyone here knows what you're going through because they have gone through it in one way or another so definitely listen to what you're being advised by the ones who know. I'm still new so I can only tell you what has worked for me so far: GAL, Reading every resource you can get your hands on on MLC. Understanding you cannot fix anything, you can only control yourself. I joined a divorce rebuilding group and it has sooooo helped my progress. Journaling - you can journal here but I also found writing in a notebook helps me clear my mind and enables me to sleep, it quiets my mind. Exercise helps get out the anger. Praying, and praying a lot. I was actually more of an agnostic before BD, and I feel like God has led me back to him. I pray for strength and he gives it to me. I also pray for forgiveness and the ability to forgive. He took my guilt away, I put ALL of it in his hands. Use this time for introspection. It's hard, but it helps. I have found out things about myself I never realized. His MLC forced me to look inside and discover things and I am working on positive changes. If he never sees them - oh well, I'm doing it for ME. Well I do hope he sees them one day but you have to live your life "as if" they aren't coming back. This is probably one of the most difficult things ever to deal with, truly heartbreaking. You're not alone - take it day by day. It's what you do with the time that matters. Just keep living - ((hugs))