With All My Hopes and Dreams

[soldier]

Thank you for the link Nettles. I will check it out right after I post this post.

Well today is the day for me and my wife to have a lunch together. She invited me and I accepted. This will be the first time we have seen each other in almost a month. I have a nice haircut and good cologne on and I have a new outfit that fits me nicely (having now lost over 30 lbs.) I have no expectations at all and I am just going to concentrate on having a nice lunch and focusing on her instead of me. I will listen intently and always look her in the eyes with kindness as opposed to a weird and awkward stare. I will not bring up anything to do with R, my changes, or us in general for that matter. I will stay calm and collected and confident. I will remain positive and happy. If asked questions I will keep my responses polite but also short and mysterious. When the lunch is over I try to end it first and will thank her for the visit and wish her well for the rest of her day. I will get in my truck and then as soon as I am out of her sight completely break down into a ball of putty (j/k). I think I am ready and hope I don’t make a mistake. I have worked really hard this week to emotionally detach and it seems to be working well.

On a side note, my W and I work in the same profession. I have been doing it a bit longer and have a bit more experience and contacts within my professional network. Often I get contacted by recruiters wanting to throw job offers at me and my W is currently actively looking for a better paying job. A few days back I was contacted by one such recruiter and I was not interested in the job but thought of my wife and introduced this recruiter to her. They started working together and my wife had a potential phone interview today. She was nervous as we work in IT and this was a tech screening so I offered to do prep with her last night. She called me and we walked through tech screening questions for over an hour.

My thought was I might be doing too much for her by wanting to help her out professionally. I am open to any guidance someone might be able to give me on weather my behavior is appropriate or not. I am not buying gifts or doing work around her current house for her. This was strictly professional but I still want to make sure.

I will post later tonight on how it went and how good, or bad, I did.