Thanks Mach. She's telling me to "take sh!t seriously and man up" now. I responded with this:
"W, I am taking things more seriously than I ever have before. I'm manning up by fighting for my marriage, not leaving it. I don't expect you to join me as I've put you through a lot of hurt and I understand that you feel you will never trust me again. I have a long time to live, you are a fantastic woman, our kids are wonderful and I will fight for the most important thing in my life. I may have been a moron in the past and I may have trouble understanding some things now. I know that I've let you down and I am going to make that right. You deserve the best. That doesn't mean you deserve someone else. You are worth every good thing you get and I hope I can give it to you some day. THAT is how I will man up."
That is still, a LOT of words....
Words that include guilt, being defensive, pursuing, and justification of your past actions....
Stop trying to talk your way out of something that you acted your way into....
A simple..."I understand how you could see it that way"...should suffice...
