Thanks Mach. She's telling me to "take sh!t seriously and man up" now. I responded with this:
"W, I am taking things more seriously than I ever have before. I'm manning up by fighting for my marriage, not leaving it. I don't expect you to join me as I've put you through a lot of hurt and I understand that you feel you will never trust me again. I have a long time to live, you are a fantastic woman, our kids are wonderful and I will fight for the most important thing in my life. I may have been a moron in the past and I may have trouble understanding some things now. I know that I've let you down and I am going to make that right. You deserve the best. That doesn't mean you deserve someone else. You are worth every good thing you get and I hope I can give it to you some day. THAT is how I will man up."
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014