Limbo is the new normal

[slow_it_down]

Another stander I appreciate your comments. I think when depression is involved that getting back to the way things were pre-depression is a good place to be. I also think that there are worse things in life than finding yourself back here after a few years. Sure everyone wants to save their marriage and keep moving forward, but for those that come back, at least they are still 'trying.' I am a believer in taking from people what they are able to offer at the time. It leads to taking chances and extending love even when it's not reciprocated or safe.

My H hasn't 'done the work' we need to succeed together, but he randomly decided to start personal counseling last week. If I hadn't allowed him back before he was 'fixed' he never would have gotten to the point where he felt our relationship was worth working on.

In terms of getting back to old habits, it's too soon to talk about that. We've had setbacks but we are still trying to figure things out. I wouldn't say we've settled into anything yet and I think the results of his counseling will have the biggest impact on how things go from here out for better or worse.