"Conducting an A with impunity, while living with LBS in the family abode, is emotional abuse."
No it isn't. Look, we can go round and round on this but the bottom line is that you keep labeling things like this and it won't help the situation. I mean I'm sure you had to deal with negative different situations when you saved your marriage didn't you?
Not like this.
H's A was not rubbed in my face; he is one of the few who left first because he thought he was "unhappy." Pursuit of ow occurred a few months later.
We did not live under the same roof during our separation. I never gave him any argument at all; I went dark immediately and left town once our D was final a year later. The last thing I wanted to do is interact with him at all. And I didn't. So, I think that helped that I left him alone to deal with the trauma he caused.
He soon realized that he had been emotionally abusive (his words) toward me by projecting all of his bs onto me. In fact, he places no blame on me at all for our split; told me several times it was not my fault and has never deviated from that.
